Friends and Romans Wednesday June 15, 2005, 5 comments

I don’t have a lot of friends.

When I was younger, I wasn’t the sort of person who collects a large cadre of people, and that hasn’t changed with time. I’ve always had one or two close friends, and several large circles of acquaintances, the intersections of which I float freely about.

This has always struck me as a little antisocial. While I consider them meaningful, my relationships with acquaintances are relatively shallow – they barely scratch the surface.

I am not the sort of person who remembers everyone’s favorite color, or which foods they hate. I can’t remember birthdays, even for people close to me. I am often a shoulder to cry on, but usually as a matter of last resort.

With my “close” friends though, I have always been in deeply meaningful relationships. Intimate (occasionally in the biological sense). I consider them family, and treat them as such.

I don’t have any friends like that any more. One by one, my closest friends have drifted out of my life, leaving me standing alone. The cheese. It is not that I am not happy for them – they all had to do what they’ve done for themselves, and I am fully supportive of that. I do miss them, and I miss the role in my life they played.

The spaces they filled.


Comments

Jorge Thursday June 16, 2005


Ah, those sultry wednesday nights spent together under that blanket in the bleachers….

Where have the days gone, my friend?

;)

Adrian Thursday June 16, 2005


Dude, you are a remarkably odd duck.

Probably why I like you so much.

Thomas Thursday June 16, 2005


Boy, I could have written the exact same thing… Mind if i just copy & paste it into my blog?

Of course, moving away from a number of my close friends, they could say the same about me – “have drifted out of my life, leaving me standing alone.” I could also add, I’m horrible about keeping in contact – even through e-mail or calling on the phone.

CaptainPurple Thursday June 16, 2005


My many years have taught me that friendships can be much like the orbits of moons and planets. We are not the sun in our little personal solar systems. We too revolve around other things.

Gah, I really do sound like a ‘knuckle dragger,’ don’t I?

Freindships are like noses, it’s what’s inside that counts.

Yeah, that sounds more like it.

K Friday June 24, 2005


believe me there are people out there who want to be you friend – actually really close friends… just open your eyes!

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