Changing Stripes Wednesday June 8, 2005, 4 comments

There is an old saying, that a tiger cannot change its stripes. It’s a saying I believe in. I believe people cannot change their fundamental nature.

We can change our outlook. We can change our education levels and even our responses to stimuli, but we cannot change the essence of ourselves.

An overbearing person will continue to be overbearing, in thought, at least, if not in fact. Their instinctive response will always be to take control of a given situation, and bulldoze anyone who stands in their way. While they may master the instinctive response, it will always be there, and situations of great stress will cause them to revert to their “natural” state.

The same applies to those with self-esteem issues. Even if they appear, on the surface to be confident, they are merely mastering their natural response to stress.

The arrogant, the meek, the loud, the rebellious, the sociopathic, all of these people are the way they are, and no matter how it appears on the outside, will continue to be that way in situations of great stress.

It is plainly visible in online communities, where a person previously abusive to any particular group in the community will suddenly settle into something resembling “responsible” behavior, only to lapse back into their abusive, attention-seeking ways at a later date. They cannot be changed, and any attempt to alter their behavior will eventually be to the community’s detriment.

How this has any relevance to the readers of this site is utterly beyond me, but I am sure everyone will find some connection. That I consider myself something of an authority on the dynamics of online communities is also irrelevant, not to mention arguable.


Comments

Thomas Wednesday June 8, 2005


whoa, whoa, whoah “a tiger cannot change its stipes”?... don’t leave out: a leopard cannot change his spots… nor can an etheopian change the color of his skin… Wait, I guess those statements also add to the fact a tiger cannot change its stipes…

Dang, and I thought I had a chance to change there for a second…

Thomas Wednesday June 8, 2005


I guess I should change my non-nefarious post (see: http://ivfx.com/2005/06/07/can-a-leopard-change-his-spots/) about a leopard actually changing his spots .. well, not acutally, but kinda sorta… ;)

CaptainPurple Wednesday June 8, 2005


Schauen Sie, sagte ich, daß ich traurig war. Wieviele Male muß ich mich entschuldigen, bevor ich verziehen werde?

Ich verspreche es, daß nie wieder, o.k. geschieht? O.K.?

K Wednesday June 8, 2005


hm, wieder einmal ein Beitrag in den man viel zu viel hineinprojizieren kann und sich unsereins wieder einmal mehr den Kopf darüber zerbricht, was man sich davon selbst auf die Kappe schreibt, oder auch nicht.

Allerdings hast du Recht, jeder spielt seine Rolle und so sehr man sich auch anstrengt – man bleibt man selbst! Man kann sich nur kurzzeitig hinter einer Fassade verstecken…

Und ja, ich war einfach mal zu faul, mir Gedanken zu machen, wie ich das einigermaßen verständlich in Englisch ausdrücken kann – aber so bin ich nun mal.

Zu einfach soll es ja auf die Dauer auch nicht werden.

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